5 Tips to make Relationship Better

In your relationship, asking for what you want in a helpful, non-threatening way helps you and your partner understand each other. In couple counseling, when partners are asked to state their wants they often discover that their wants are very much the same, and the problem disappears. The conflict between them was only their lack of understanding and communication.

So, what's the best way to ask for what you want when wondering how to make your relationship better?

Here are 5 tips to make your relationship better

1. Get clear about what you want : You can't say what you want clearly if you're not certain what it is. Before approaching your partner with a request, think about it and write it down in one concise sentence.

2. Create a good atmosphere : If asking for what you want is hard for you, don't do it without preparation. Choose a moment when you and your partner both have time, and invite him or her to sit down and speak with you.

3. Simply state what you want : Don't begin your statement with a lot of disclaimers -- they make the other person feel accused of something. Just ask, politely, for what you want or need.

4. Be prepared to accept a "no" : Remember, if you can't accept a no answer, then you're making a demand, not a request, so have a backup solution. Find a way to get what you want for yourself, even if the other person isn't cooperating.

5. Listen politely to your partner's answer : Whether your partner says yes, no, or something in between, listen carefully to what he or she says. Don't get all caught up in the worry and noise inside your head -- pay attention. You need to know what the answer is.

If you follow these steps, you will help your relationship most of the time. And even when you don't, you'll have a backup plan, so you really can't lose.